Secrets of a Joyful Marriage

I’ve been thinking a lot about how lucky I am to have such an awesome hubby. There’s just been so many crazy things going on recently, that I thank my lucky stars that I have him (and that he has me, of course…). Which got me thinking, what is it that actually makes us work? I came up with a list of 10 reasons, because lists like this always have to have 10 reasons… Here they are in no particular order:

  1. We don’t take ourselves too seriously.

    A large portion of our first year of marriage was spent figuring out ways to hide a rubber chicken from each other. I think that says enough…

     

  2. We make each other laugh – A LOT.
    This is definitely one of the things that I love most about our marriage. The best part is, my hubby is pretty shameless and will do incredibly silly things to make me (and just about anyone else) laugh. Like walking around in a banana costume.

    I left him a message on the whiteboard he was using to practice writing Japanese characters.
  3. We say we’re sorry.

    Yes, we argue like everyone else does. Yes, we have times where we don’t talk to one another. Still, I don’t think we’re able to stay angry for more than a few hours. Inevitably, someone apologizes because I… I mean, one of us, knows we’re wrong.



  4. Two words – 2 bathrooms.



  5. We are on the same team.

    I can’t tell you how many times he has said to me “You know I’m not your enemy, right? You know I’m on your side, right?” when I’m worked up about something, which generally reminds me that whatever it is I am worked up about is not his fault.

     

  6. It’s really not that big a deal.

    Most things really aren’t. Yes, it’s annoying that dirty clothes are always behind the bathroom door and I’m the one who winds up picking them up a lot of the time. Before I get angry, though, I have to ask myself if this is really that important. I can mention it casually and if it gets through then great! If not, is it worth an argument?



  7. We have faith in each other.

    I can’t speak for him, but I’m going to assume it’s as true for him as it is for me. I really believe he is capable of anything. I don’t just mean things like becoming a teacher or learning Japanese. I mean random stuff like “I’m going to meet Neil DeGrasse Tyson” and then “randomly” meeting him at the Museum of Natural History with the little guy.

     

  8. Love & Kindness

    We love each other. We want each other to be happy. We choose to support and stick by each other even when it’s hard. That’s the love part. The kindness part: I’m not great at this one, but I’m trying to get better – always, always, always, say it with kindness!



  9. We balance each others crazy.

    We are both a little crazy (me more so than him) and I think we’re a different kind of crazy from each other which is why I think this works!



  10. 2 Bathrooms

    This one needs repeating. If we didn’t have 2 bathrooms, it would probably all be over. I recently saw a sign in the neighborhood for a couple of houses for sale – 4 bedroom, 4 bathroom! That would be a bathroom for each of us! I think our family would reach Nirvana…

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